More Than A Conqueror: Chapter 2 - Future Leaders of Tomorrow

Chapter 2: 

Future Leaders of Tomorrow

In 2010, I worked in a preschool for a while (about a year) as the Administrative & Operations Manager, assisting the Principal in administrative tasks and school syllabuses. I loved talking to the teachers there because I would learn something new about them - and about the children they teach - almost everyday. I also loved having conversations with the schoolchildren because they were so fun to talk to! ;) 

Anyway, when I observe the behaviour of the people around me (and also myself), I feel that our parents could have done some things differently while raising us so that we would be able to handle certain life's challenges and struggles better as adults. These were the things that the teachers at the school had taught me:

COMPASSION

Children should be treated as children, not simply small adults. They must be treated with tender compassion, and you will come to realise that they are a source of one of life’s greatest joys.

RECOGNITION

We must recognise that each child is a unique person. It is dangerous to make too much comparison between children because they vary in talents and dispositions. They should be considered individually.

CONSIDERATION

Do small problem-solving exercises to help a child think about the feelings of others and learn the value of consideration. Over time, even a young child sees that words or actions can make another person smile or feel better, and that is when he or she is kind to someone else.

DISCIPLINE

Discipline does not necessarily mean punishment. Discipline really means showing the way to go, as well as deterring the way not to go. You are more than just a friend to children. By word and example you have to show and teach them right from wrong, and truth from error.

TRUTHFULNESS

The best way to encourage truthfulness in your child is to be a truthful person yourself. Let your child hear you being truthful with other adults. Another way to promote the value of honesty: don’t overreact if your child lies to you. Instead, help him or her find a way to tell the truth.

DIRECTION

Children have to learn to make decisions, and in time will make all of their own decisions. Parents should make it as easy as possible for their children to come to them for good counsel and direction so that they are able to be good decision-makers.

LOVE

Let the children see you demonstrate your love and affection for the people in your life. And, of course, don’t let a day pass without expressing your affection for them. When children feel free to express their love to us, we instil in them perhaps the greatest value of all.

RESPECT

We should have respect for children. They have feelings, too. If they misbehave, talk to them firmly but gently, teach them and reason with them if we have to. We should never abuse them verbally or physically.

ENCOURAGEMENT

Children meet with disappointments sometimes. They must be shown how to deal with them. We should not be the source of discouragement. We should help them succeed, build self-esteem and self-respect, and show them their worth.

DETERMINATION

Determination is a value that you can encourage from a very young age. First, you praise your children for their initiative in doing something. Congratulate them when they manage to do things that are difficult for them. Then you provide them with honest yet gentle feedback.

INDEPENDENCE

Children cannot stand alone. But they must be taught to stand alone. The time will come when you will not be there to prop them up and they must learn to stand, and how to stand. The time will come when we must turn them loose, and that is not easy to do, but must be done.

JUSTICE

In order to help children internalise a true sense of justice, parents need to encourage them to take some action to remedy a wrong. Having a child say sorry and make amends in a proactive way emphasise the importance of treating people fairly.

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More Than A Conqueror: Chapter 1 - Live the Impossible Dreams

Chapter 1: 

Live the Impossible Dreams

Whilst it is perfectly sensible to stay grounded in your thoughts and to keep things simple, do dream and imagine like a child. Delve into a journey beyond anything comprehensible. That vision in your head will open up both your mind and heart to possibilities and opportunities.

1. Beyond Limitations

#beyondlimitations

Have a 'gravity-defying' mindset. Play by the rules, but, when necessary, break the rules – only if it is absolutely necessary, of course! When someone says, "That’s not possible!" you say, "I have to at least try to prove you wrong!" Be a go-getter. It's better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all.


2. Beyond All Odds

#beyondallodds

Adopt a 'can-do' attitude. Say, "Yes!" and "I can do it!" rather than "No," or "I don't believe I can." Possessing a 'can-do' attitude breeds confidence in individual abilities. Have confidence in yourself, because underestimating yourself hinders you from doing something above your expectation.

3. Beyond Reason

#beyondreason

You don't need a reason for everything you do; just go with your gut instinct. Your gut is smarter than your heart. Be bold. Be courageous. Be adventurous. Challenge the status quo. Be that person who says, "Challenge accepted!" when someone says, "It has never been done before."

4. Beyond Sense

#beyondsense

People with a sense of humour and absurdity are hopeful about the future because they are usually cheerful and optimistic. Be one of them. Be confident in your abilities to achieve your goals and are excited about the possibilities of positive new experiences, even when the situation may seem bleak or hopeless.

5. Beyond Reality 

#beyondreality

Be on cloud nine sometimes. Imagining that you are someplace else often helps improve your work performance. Also, surround yourself with blue for better associative thinking. Red on the other hand can make you more alert and analytic. Therefore, surround yourself with red to solve problems and blue to be more creative and productive.

6. Beyond Boundaries 

#beyondboundaries

Set challenges for yourself that make you aim higher than you are already aiming and see how far or fast you can go. What we are born with physically does not define who we are or what we can do. What we make of ourselves define who we are, and the way to do it is to constantly stretch our boundaries in search of intriguing new experiences and solutions.  


7. Beyond Logic 

#beyondlogic

What may not seem logical to us at first may eventually make sense as we see the 'why' in our decisions. Step out of your comfort zone. Be someone who is able to adapt easily to new, status-quo-challenging plans when a standing plan goes awry. Only people who are willing to take bold risks without fear of judgment or ridicule can truly succeed in life. 


 8. Beyond Explanation 

#beyondexplanation

Where there is a readiness to meet new challenges head-on, there is iron will and determination behind it. First and foremost, have faith in yourself. Muster all your courage and willpower to be the best you can be, and you will realise that you are actually much better than you give yourself credit for. 


 9. Beyond Expectations 

#beyondexpectations

It is rare for anyone to exceed expectations unless they do it on purpose. Exceeding expectations requires more effort to surpass what might be described as "acceptable performance." The key here is to keep persevering. Sooner or later, you will exceed your own expectations, and you will find that it is what empowers you and drives you to be the best. 


 10. Beyond Perception 

#beyondperception

Basically, to live beyond perception is to observe, analyse and understand. Sometimes, based on what we see or perceive, we tend to fear or ridicule what we don't know or understand. So take the time to learn new things that are not of the social norm from all aspects, and you will find that illusion is a matter of perspective. 


 11. Beyond Concept 

#beyondconcept

In the physical world, it is impossible to turn back time. However, beyond the concept of it is that we need to have some of our oldest and most treasured pieces of our past, be it experiences or mistakes, to be part of our future. They help shape who we are today, so ponder on the 'what ifs' and 'what could have beens' and how you can be better from now on. 


 12. Beyond Understanding 

#beyondunderstanding

Sometimes the lack of understanding of something leaves us in wonder and utter bewilderment. But when we actually take the time to study and understand something, and learn to make it happen, we could just be the leaders or pioneers of something even greater, much like some of the greatest inventors in history.

12 Ways To Be & Stay Creative

“Do interesting things and interesting things will happen to you.”

—Sir John Hegarty

(Legendary, World-Famous Advertising Creative)

1. Always Have Your Notebook with You

Yes, like, all the time. You never know when your muse will strike.

2. Doodle or Scribble

Doodles and scribbles can be the source of inspiration for artworks. They also help you reflect on your own feelings and develop creative ideas.

3. Be Thankful

You actually have eyes to see, hands to draw or write and a sound mind to generate ideas. What more could you ask for? Count your blessings.

4. Be a Daredevil

Take risks. Do extreme sports, or go for an adventure by yourself. Life experiences can inspire larger-than-life essays, drawings or paintings.

5. Free Your Mind

Be open to criticisms, suggestions and opinions. Free your mind from worries. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Only then can you truly be creative and stay that way.

6. Don’t Be Hard On Yourself

Don’t force yourself to write, draw or design if you haven’t felt it yet. Once you find yourself thinking, “Ah, this is it!” then only would you be confident enough to come up with something creatively spectacular.

7. Be a Bathroom Singer

There’s nothing more liberating than singing in the shower… because the acoustics are great AND it’s an awesome stress-reliever! It’s another way to free your mind, really.

8. Read the Dictionary

What better way to learn new words and get ideas from than to read the dictionary every now and then?

9. Frame Your Art

Paint, draw, sketch or even write something (typography or calligraphy, maybe?) and frame it up. Be proud of your creative work.

10. Don’t Be Perfect; Just Be Yourself

There’s nothing more attractive than being yourself. Integrity in your art will shine through and stand out.

11. Surround Yourself with Creative People

They say, “You are who you hang out with,” so make sure you do hang out with creative people who inspire you so that you could learn from one another, and grow.

12. Go Somewhere New

Travel, explore and discover places, and attend events to experience new cultures. Meeting new people and getting to know their life experiences and stories will surely inspire you to be more creative in your expressions in art.

The 360° Leader: Developing Your Influence from Anywhere in the Organisation - The Influence Challenge

The Influence Challenge

Integrity - builds relationships on trust
Nurturing - cares about people as individuals
Faith - believes in people
Listening - values what others have to say
Understanding - sees from their point of view
Enlarging - helps others become bigger
Navigating - assists others through difficulties
Connecting - initiates positive relationships
Empowering - gives them the power to lead